Types of Dynamics

In the context of BDSM, there are various dynamics that individuals can explore as Dominants (Doms) or Submissives (Subs). It’s important to note that BDSM dynamics are consensual and negotiated between partners, and they can vary greatly depending on personal preferences and boundaries. All dynamics are power exchanges. You can have a power exchange without being in a dynamic. Here are some common dynamics:

1. Dom/sub: This is the classic power exchange dynamic where one partner (the Dominant or Dom) takes on a controlling and authoritative role, while the other partner (the Submissive or Sub) consensually relinquishes control and follows the Dom’s directives.

1. Master/slave: This dynamic involves a more extreme power exchange, where the Dominant partner (the Master or Mistress) has complete ownership and control over the Submissive partner (the slave). It often includes elements of obedience, servitude, and consensual power imbalance.

1. Top/bottom: While not strictly a Dom/sub dynamic, top/bottom dynamics focus more on specific scenes or activities rather than an overall power exchange. The Top takes on the role of the person providing stimulation, control, or dominance, while the Bottom is the person receiving or submitting to the actions or sensations. This typically happens at play parties or when people negotiate scenes for private play.

1. Switch: A switch is an individual who enjoys both the dominant and submissive roles, often within different relationships or during separate scenes. Switches can alternate between being a Dom and a Sub, depending on their mood, partner, or situation.

1. Daddy/Mommy/little: This dynamic often involves a nurturing and caregiving role (Daddy/Mommy) and a more childlike or youthful role (little). It can include elements of age-play and can encompass both emotional and physical care. This also includes Middles and Bigs(those whose age regression range is a bit older than a little’s).

1. Owner/pet: In this dynamic, one partner takes on the role of an Owner or Handler, while the other partner becomes a pet (e.g., puppy, kitten, pony). It involves training, discipline, and pet-like behaviors, within the bounds of negotiated consent.

All dynamics are power exchanges. Something is given and taken from both sides of the slash. Learning what your kinks and fetishes are also helps you decide the type of dynamic you want. Never allow anyone to force you into a dynamic if all you want is to enjoy negotiated scenes and play. Never settle for just play if you are looking to be in a dynamic. Honesty is the best policy! KNOW what you want and don’t be afraid to ask BUT VET everyone you come across!

These dynamics are not exhaustive, and individuals may create their own unique variations or combinations based on their desires and preferences. Most of the time people end up with a mixed dynamic because no one is just one thing in this lifestyle. It’s crucial to establish open communication, consent, and boundaries with your partner(s) to ensure a safe and enjoyable experience within the BDSM community.